"CYBERPARKERS, how many of you are attached? how many of you have been hurt by girls? 'nuff said."
sometimes the answer to a complicated question is to stop asking it. its in my opinion that relationships are a bit like money. let me explain.
sometimes some people get caught up in trying to make money that they forget to enjoy the money they have made. they forget that happiness is not how much you earn, but how contented you are. they forget their goals, dreams, aspirations. they get caught up in the worldly game of a rat-race, looking back, they see that the only thing they truly loved was money.
likewise, it is in my personal opinion that if a reasonable man were to always wonder when he might find the right gal, when he might feel uplifted by the presence of a genteel being, he forgets the friends that he once had, the joy that he shared and the laughter that made him who he was. he might seem nonchalent and sensitive as he waits and mulls, but is he contented? i do not imply that having a relationship is bad nor do i imply that not having one is good. Whether we were or were not in a relationship before, can we look back at the time spent and say.. yes, i have no regrets, yes, i did enjoy myself. and one of the moments i did enjoy was when i looked back at my A-levels and wonder y didnt i study harder in year 1? but boy did i have fun and that i have no regrets. mayb i wasnt smart enough to juggle play and work. and i am sure many people on this website can have a mischievous grin at time well spent in a school somewhere in the east.
this brings me back to my earlier point, is success measured byhow long a relationship lasts? or how much we enjoyed? i reckon that success is only achieved when on hindsight u look back and say there was no other way i could have done this better. and here i am, proud of wat i am. look at the face of a just-to-be Dad, or the feelings of a expectant mum. that i am sure, many people would agree, is the start of another chapter and the closure of a successful part of life.
there has been some very good advice given about relationships, but if only we could define the core term that it revolves around it. the term that drives and motivates, and the term that despairs and torments. that term is love. one interesting point raised is that can relationships really be placed on the same level as marriage? where it being the holy unity of man and woman of a lifelong committment, of trust, care, worries, tribulations and so much more. till death do we part. can that level of profoundness be compared to a relationship? one might argue that the seeds of marrigae might be a relationship. then the counter arguement would be that seeds and the resultant fertile crop are 2 very different things. if your seeds fail to grow, a reasonable man might just weep for the hours he has spent. but if his crop fails, he might be runied for the months spent toiling.
but thats beyond the scope of the discussion. what matters is that perhaps instead of wishing for the right winds to blow, for the right rains to come, cherish what we have and the moments that once passed might never come back. because love might make the future seem bright, contentment will make the present seem cheerful and success will make our past seem resplendent.
Good luck to Frens n Co. having exams!! best regards from the UK
Wednesday, November 30, 2005
Tuesday, November 29, 2005
return fire. defence of the boys
firstly, i kinda disagree with you.
"Couple met, fall in love and then break. Girl sad, boy don't want her, girl hung up."
it takes 2 to break up. meaning it's not entirely the guy's fault that he's lost interest in her, neither is it entirely the girl's fault that she can't keep the guy's interest. relationships are basically simpler versions of marriage, starting a family etc. there is a need for relationship planning as there is a need for planning marriage, planning kids.
the feelings of the heart are more often than not, intangible and unjustifiable. there can be points in time when you feel alot for this person, and there are other times when you just can't stand being around this person. This "phenomenon" is the result of factors such as 1) the need for company 2) lust for the opp sex (yes we do all lust) 3) the activities that we are involved in (school, having fun with friends, etc) 4) perhaps more but i'm lazy to think
hence, before going into the relationship, there has to be a pre-relationship phase - akin to dating before marriage, we have to date before dating. make sense? good. Whirlwind romances mostly never last. Long distance relationships never last (1% maybe). A good advice would be to understand the person you like very thoroughly before going into a relationship.
"In dating, the story goes, boy chase girl, girl accept him and *kah boom* , you start a relationship, right?"
A relationship shouldn't be all flowery and honeymoonish. Personally, a relationship should transit from friends to "lovers" so smoothly that the date that you guys actually got together is sort of blurry. So for all those 1/2/3 months dating people, please put in more effort to hide your dark secrets because one day they'll be discovered. Also, this is why it's harder to keep the attention of the opp party.
for girls (and boys) who think that relationships that last anything from 4 mths to six mths to under a year is considered a long relationship, it serves you right that you broke up and you're all miserable. You should see relationships as something more sacred than just short termed goals. If you can't hope and strive to be with the person forever, it just means you're a player. i mean, i just can't see anyone saying "oh i hope i'll be together with her for a year. or two". and i've heard many of my friends say "oh i'll love her forever and ever".. then when they break.. "shit happens..oh well".
Brings me to the next point. There is a fine line btw love and like like like like alot. Noone can define love. but most silly immature girls love the word love. they use it freely as if they knew what it meant. please stop this. and guys, please stop using the word love to get into girls' pants.
"Yes, we not only lose out physically, we also lose out emotionally and that sucks like shite."
what makes you think that guys don't lose out physically and emotionally? girls lose out physically because what, they lose their virginity? guys have their virginity too, however gay that sounds. anyway it's all a mindset. you can't lose what you don't give. and you can never lose what you willingly give. so please DON'T BULLSHIT ME about this physical aspect of a relationship. emotionally. let's see. CYBERPARKERS, how many of you are attached? how many of you have been hurt by girls? 'nuff said.
some examples:
"damn sian leh. she haven't reply. what to do ah? msg again? wait she think i'm irritating"
"i think i'm on her ignore list on msn"
"she shut me out of her life all of a sudden"
"how can she do this to me?"
girls never do realize how much effort really goes into a girl they like. the time spent, money spent, effort spent. you may say you're not high maintenance, or just a very simple girl who wants affection, but to guys it's a different matter altogether. we go out to impress, to win you over. money, affection, effort and time all come together in a package. when a guy tells his guyfriends about a girl, his guyfriends all know he's serious. we'll give him space and even though he says he has no money to go out with us, we won't get pissed when he has money to go out with her. So if the guy spends so much of his capacity to get you, and finally wins you over, you better be sure you are what you portrayed to him during the "chase". I mean, i wouldn't pity the girl if the guy realizes the girl is actually some gossiping vulgar bitch and not the elegant classy girl he thought he was after and dumps her.
"You men always think that we are some deluded, some irrational and insecure bitches who wants perfection and attention, but we're only like that because you treat us THAT WAY."
guys are as insecure as girls. so don't go around befriending other guys and hughug kisskiss. it's ok for girlfriends to go out/hang out with other guys but it gets on our nerves sometimes. so outwardly it may seem alright to us, but the feeling'll grow. don't be close to other guys than your boyfriend. if you can go around hugging boys, we can go around hugging girls.
you stopped here, so i'll conclude.
getting into a relationship isn't all "rainbows and butterflies". Calling each other stupid won't help either, neither is stringing as many stupids as you can into a sentence. that's just being immature. there are issues of both parties that every individual needs to consider. obviously you don't understand guys very well, and i don't expect you to, because guys will never understand girls very well either. The only thing we can do is be sensitive to the opp sex, don't ask for too much and always work things out sensibly. in a relationship, transparency, honesty, passion will make a couple go far. In a relationship, it's most impt to give and take, and in anger, always SHUT UP. you will always say the wrong things in the heat of anger.
final note, girls please think carefully before going into a relationship. don't go in then come out complaining. most of you do. it's true that some guys are players, but i know for a fact that a hell lot of girls are players too. be prudent when choosing your partner.
"guys suck and girl's are suckers"
"men give love for sex, and women give sex for love"
"Couple met, fall in love and then break. Girl sad, boy don't want her, girl hung up."
it takes 2 to break up. meaning it's not entirely the guy's fault that he's lost interest in her, neither is it entirely the girl's fault that she can't keep the guy's interest. relationships are basically simpler versions of marriage, starting a family etc. there is a need for relationship planning as there is a need for planning marriage, planning kids.
the feelings of the heart are more often than not, intangible and unjustifiable. there can be points in time when you feel alot for this person, and there are other times when you just can't stand being around this person. This "phenomenon" is the result of factors such as 1) the need for company 2) lust for the opp sex (yes we do all lust) 3) the activities that we are involved in (school, having fun with friends, etc) 4) perhaps more but i'm lazy to think
hence, before going into the relationship, there has to be a pre-relationship phase - akin to dating before marriage, we have to date before dating. make sense? good. Whirlwind romances mostly never last. Long distance relationships never last (1% maybe). A good advice would be to understand the person you like very thoroughly before going into a relationship.
"In dating, the story goes, boy chase girl, girl accept him and *kah boom* , you start a relationship, right?"
A relationship shouldn't be all flowery and honeymoonish. Personally, a relationship should transit from friends to "lovers" so smoothly that the date that you guys actually got together is sort of blurry. So for all those 1/2/3 months dating people, please put in more effort to hide your dark secrets because one day they'll be discovered. Also, this is why it's harder to keep the attention of the opp party.
for girls (and boys) who think that relationships that last anything from 4 mths to six mths to under a year is considered a long relationship, it serves you right that you broke up and you're all miserable. You should see relationships as something more sacred than just short termed goals. If you can't hope and strive to be with the person forever, it just means you're a player. i mean, i just can't see anyone saying "oh i hope i'll be together with her for a year. or two". and i've heard many of my friends say "oh i'll love her forever and ever".. then when they break.. "shit happens..oh well".
Brings me to the next point. There is a fine line btw love and like like like like alot. Noone can define love. but most silly immature girls love the word love. they use it freely as if they knew what it meant. please stop this. and guys, please stop using the word love to get into girls' pants.
"Yes, we not only lose out physically, we also lose out emotionally and that sucks like shite."
what makes you think that guys don't lose out physically and emotionally? girls lose out physically because what, they lose their virginity? guys have their virginity too, however gay that sounds. anyway it's all a mindset. you can't lose what you don't give. and you can never lose what you willingly give. so please DON'T BULLSHIT ME about this physical aspect of a relationship. emotionally. let's see. CYBERPARKERS, how many of you are attached? how many of you have been hurt by girls? 'nuff said.
some examples:
"damn sian leh. she haven't reply. what to do ah? msg again? wait she think i'm irritating"
"i think i'm on her ignore list on msn"
"she shut me out of her life all of a sudden"
"how can she do this to me?"
girls never do realize how much effort really goes into a girl they like. the time spent, money spent, effort spent. you may say you're not high maintenance, or just a very simple girl who wants affection, but to guys it's a different matter altogether. we go out to impress, to win you over. money, affection, effort and time all come together in a package. when a guy tells his guyfriends about a girl, his guyfriends all know he's serious. we'll give him space and even though he says he has no money to go out with us, we won't get pissed when he has money to go out with her. So if the guy spends so much of his capacity to get you, and finally wins you over, you better be sure you are what you portrayed to him during the "chase". I mean, i wouldn't pity the girl if the guy realizes the girl is actually some gossiping vulgar bitch and not the elegant classy girl he thought he was after and dumps her.
"You men always think that we are some deluded, some irrational and insecure bitches who wants perfection and attention, but we're only like that because you treat us THAT WAY."
guys are as insecure as girls. so don't go around befriending other guys and hughug kisskiss. it's ok for girlfriends to go out/hang out with other guys but it gets on our nerves sometimes. so outwardly it may seem alright to us, but the feeling'll grow. don't be close to other guys than your boyfriend. if you can go around hugging boys, we can go around hugging girls.
you stopped here, so i'll conclude.
getting into a relationship isn't all "rainbows and butterflies". Calling each other stupid won't help either, neither is stringing as many stupids as you can into a sentence. that's just being immature. there are issues of both parties that every individual needs to consider. obviously you don't understand guys very well, and i don't expect you to, because guys will never understand girls very well either. The only thing we can do is be sensitive to the opp sex, don't ask for too much and always work things out sensibly. in a relationship, transparency, honesty, passion will make a couple go far. In a relationship, it's most impt to give and take, and in anger, always SHUT UP. you will always say the wrong things in the heat of anger.
final note, girls please think carefully before going into a relationship. don't go in then come out complaining. most of you do. it's true that some guys are players, but i know for a fact that a hell lot of girls are players too. be prudent when choosing your partner.
"guys suck and girl's are suckers"
"men give love for sex, and women give sex for love"
Monday, November 28, 2005
1 down, 1 more to go.
i am pleased to announce that i will be pleased to get above 40/100 for the STAT102: Introductory Statistics B final exam. thank you thank you, you're far too kind.
goodbye deans' list, goodbye my only hope for an A.
crash all my hopes upon FA. crash and burn...
in addition i've made a bet with ms. anna vanessa haotanto that if i score above a B for STAT102, i will treat her one jug of housepour at zouk. if i score below B, she will treat me one jug of housepour. all you readers will bare witness to this testimony!
goodbye deans' list, goodbye my only hope for an A.
crash all my hopes upon FA. crash and burn...
in addition i've made a bet with ms. anna vanessa haotanto that if i score above a B for STAT102, i will treat her one jug of housepour at zouk. if i score below B, she will treat me one jug of housepour. all you readers will bare witness to this testimony!
"would you cared if i disappeared?
would you be happier?
would you miss me?
perhaps you would know after i told you goodbye."
would you be happier?
would you miss me?
perhaps you would know after i told you goodbye."
adieu
farewell my dear,
my decision perhaps long overdue.
as i turn my back and take my leave,
i want you to know, i bid you adieu.
"would you cared if i disappeared?
would you be happier?
would you miss me?
perhaps you would know after i told you goodbye."
my decision perhaps long overdue.
as i turn my back and take my leave,
i want you to know, i bid you adieu.
"would you cared if i disappeared?
would you be happier?
would you miss me?
perhaps you would know after i told you goodbye."
You left your door wide open,
Couldn't help but walk in.
It's the last place I should be,
But I'm dying to see you
Have I held out for something
that is never going to happen?
It's not me that you love..
You woke up cold this morning,
Shied away from my touch
I would never mean to hurt you,
Cause I love you so much
Was it always only one night
that you ever wanted from me?
It's not me that you love..
Couldn't help but walk in.
It's the last place I should be,
But I'm dying to see you
Have I held out for something
that is never going to happen?
It's not me that you love..
You woke up cold this morning,
Shied away from my touch
I would never mean to hurt you,
Cause I love you so much
Was it always only one night
that you ever wanted from me?
It's not me that you love..
Sunday, November 27, 2005
so it begins. a 5-day sprint to freedom. on your marks, get set...
ills of studying too much. makes you ponder when you take a break.
with all the statistics testings i've been studying, test here, test there. test till i go bonkers. so....as i looked up to take a breather and saw the orange flashing thingy at my windows taskbar, i thought:
if you don't talk to anyone at all while studying all day, how many people will come talk to you?
considering only communications that isn't face to face. e.g.: phone call, sms, msn.
results after a few days, less than satisfying, which was expected since i'm:
(a) not a hot chick;
(b) not a pretty girl;
(c) not gay and hence no gay friends.
people who initiated conversation are as follows:
(a) the nice people posting on this blog, asking where i am;
(b) classmates, bored from studying;
(c) the pretty ladies who enjoy talking to me. :)
to be honest, i'm not so sure about (c). i just like to think that way. but then again maybe they were just bored and had no one else to talk to....
hmmm....
haha. the things people do when they're bored. sheesh.
anyway, remember Dec 2nd, cos i can't hardly wait.
with all the statistics testings i've been studying, test here, test there. test till i go bonkers. so....as i looked up to take a breather and saw the orange flashing thingy at my windows taskbar, i thought:
if you don't talk to anyone at all while studying all day, how many people will come talk to you?
considering only communications that isn't face to face. e.g.: phone call, sms, msn.
results after a few days, less than satisfying, which was expected since i'm:
(a) not a hot chick;
(b) not a pretty girl;
(c) not gay and hence no gay friends.
people who initiated conversation are as follows:
(a) the nice people posting on this blog, asking where i am;
(b) classmates, bored from studying;
(c) the pretty ladies who enjoy talking to me. :)
to be honest, i'm not so sure about (c). i just like to think that way. but then again maybe they were just bored and had no one else to talk to....
hmmm....
haha. the things people do when they're bored. sheesh.
anyway, remember Dec 2nd, cos i can't hardly wait.
Wednesday, November 23, 2005
Friday, November 18, 2005
listen to your heart
listen to your heart
when he's calling for you
listen to your heart
there's nothing else you can do
i don't know where you're going
and i don't know why
but listen to your heart
before you tell him goodbye
when he's calling for you
listen to your heart
there's nothing else you can do
i don't know where you're going
and i don't know why
but listen to your heart
before you tell him goodbye
Thursday, November 17, 2005
cancellations/recollections/ponderations
i feel like cancelling sentosa.
unless you can persuade me not to.
no particular reason.
just sian in general.
does being older make you nicer?
or is it just personal change?
as shaun said, when did it ever pay to be nice?
tempting words indeed.
perhaps i should get in touch with my old self.
just an little of that will be enough.
i'll think about it.
a man shouldn't get tangled by his emotions.
it's utterly disgusting for a man to wallow in self pity.
where is your pride?
my advice?
time to wake up.
you're a man
or at least growing up to be a man.
learn to act like one.
unless you can persuade me not to.
no particular reason.
just sian in general.
does being older make you nicer?
or is it just personal change?
as shaun said, when did it ever pay to be nice?
tempting words indeed.
perhaps i should get in touch with my old self.
just an little of that will be enough.
i'll think about it.
a man shouldn't get tangled by his emotions.
it's utterly disgusting for a man to wallow in self pity.
where is your pride?
my advice?
time to wake up.
you're a man
or at least growing up to be a man.
learn to act like one.
Wednesday, November 16, 2005
Cakes!
everyone's like damn stressed from studying. de-stress by looking at these gorgeous cakes! ate them today at bakerzin after my cf dinner. fantastic !
Saturday, November 12, 2005
I'm Lazy
I'm too lazy to ask everyone which day you'd prefer. Soooooooo, I will just set it on a day that I've chosen. Which shall be Monday, 21st November. Why? To chase away your Monday blues. Should Monday rain, then we will stay in, study and come out on Tuesday instead. LTB teaches you to always have contingency plans.
Ok, I've given you the date, I shall inform key personnel. Those informed, go find your own friends to join our escapade at Sentosa! Love your friends! If you love your friends you'd tell them to come down and relax. So spread the love! Fun and frolick awaits you. Monday, 21st November 2005.
Ok, I've given you the date, I shall inform key personnel. Those informed, go find your own friends to join our escapade at Sentosa! Love your friends! If you love your friends you'd tell them to come down and relax. So spread the love! Fun and frolick awaits you. Monday, 21st November 2005.
Friday, November 11, 2005
Time to Burn
Hello Guys and Girls!
it's that time of the year again! when studying floods your schedules and exams are all you can ever think of.
most of you will be busy burning your minds mugging for your various exams so i have come to propose that you take one day from your schedule to relieve your mind burning and instead head down to the beach for some skin burning!
yes, during the week long study break school has given us, i want YOU to head down to sentosa to relax for one day. ease your mind, soak up a little sun and toss that frisbee.
i am leaning towards a day from monday to wednesday (21st - 23rd) cos it's not too near the exam week and none of you will be freaking out on the beach, running around shouting your FA/MA/ISM theories to the whole world.
i will be asking you all for a day which you'd prefer and post a follow up to this.
bring yourselves, bring our friends, bring YOUR friends! leave your books, leave your notes and leave your work at home! it's time to relax and unwind.
21st -23rd november. one day of fun and frolick. you've been warned.
it's that time of the year again! when studying floods your schedules and exams are all you can ever think of.
most of you will be busy burning your minds mugging for your various exams so i have come to propose that you take one day from your schedule to relieve your mind burning and instead head down to the beach for some skin burning!
yes, during the week long study break school has given us, i want YOU to head down to sentosa to relax for one day. ease your mind, soak up a little sun and toss that frisbee.
i am leaning towards a day from monday to wednesday (21st - 23rd) cos it's not too near the exam week and none of you will be freaking out on the beach, running around shouting your FA/MA/ISM theories to the whole world.
i will be asking you all for a day which you'd prefer and post a follow up to this.
bring yourselves, bring our friends, bring YOUR friends! leave your books, leave your notes and leave your work at home! it's time to relax and unwind.
21st -23rd november. one day of fun and frolick. you've been warned.
Thursday, November 10, 2005
Wat I Brought Back.. ooops..
After a Day of Clay Pigeon Shooting..
Its huge.. Its live.. and jus imagine those ball bearings going thru some flesh..
Its My Duty to Inform u tt... (watever officer)
I NRIC, Rank n Name... Declare that.. I Do have...
Sunday, November 06, 2005
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assessing the new beginning.
looks like the new semester will bring me everywhere around the school. SoB, SoA, SESS. 3 day week baby! and CT only starts in the last half of the term. everyday wake up late except for wednesday. this is a recipe for disaster i tell you.
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Friday, November 04, 2005
this is why i love zhiguang.
-=Zhiguang=- Autumn Time!! Winters icy breath is just a snowflake away says:
y u sound so depressed?
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
suffering from depression
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
going to take my life tonight
-=Zhiguang=- Autumn Time!! Winters icy breath is just a snowflake away says:
really really ?
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
wanna join in?
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
webcam la
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
together
-=Zhiguang=- Autumn Time!! Winters icy breath is just a snowflake away says:
fuck la.. ask u la..
-=Zhiguang=- Autumn Time!! Winters icy breath is just a snowflake away says:
cannot uni firewall
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
oh ya
-=Zhiguang=- Autumn Time!! Winters icy breath is just a snowflake away says:
only can use skype.
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
then maybe lag then i cut my wrist first how
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
then you humchee never cut
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
then only i die
-=Zhiguang=- Autumn Time!! Winters icy breath is just a snowflake away says:
u jump mayb i jumo..
-=Zhiguang=- Autumn Time!! Winters icy breath is just a snowflake away says:
of course... u die i KS
y u sound so depressed?
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
suffering from depression
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
going to take my life tonight
-=Zhiguang=- Autumn Time!! Winters icy breath is just a snowflake away says:
really really ?
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
wanna join in?
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
webcam la
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
together
-=Zhiguang=- Autumn Time!! Winters icy breath is just a snowflake away says:
fuck la.. ask u la..
-=Zhiguang=- Autumn Time!! Winters icy breath is just a snowflake away says:
cannot uni firewall
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
oh ya
-=Zhiguang=- Autumn Time!! Winters icy breath is just a snowflake away says:
only can use skype.
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
then maybe lag then i cut my wrist first how
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
then you humchee never cut
shaun ..why do these little black clouds keep following me says:
then only i die
-=Zhiguang=- Autumn Time!! Winters icy breath is just a snowflake away says:
u jump mayb i jumo..
-=Zhiguang=- Autumn Time!! Winters icy breath is just a snowflake away says:
of course... u die i KS
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